Important questions

Come December and The Times of India would run stories featuring the best and worst of all that happened through the year in all the fields from art to the zaika (flavour) of the season. Papa, would want me to read it all so my general knowledge remained good. The TOI does not do it anymore on that scale but I still look forward to any article that has anything to do with the tagline ‘the year that was!’
We are having Christmas break with coaching classes for 9th to 12th very much in place. Come January and the pre-board season will start. The students who are steadfast with their studies start worrying about their performance and those who were hibernating till now start coming to life, dusting off their books and looking at the black ink on page after page, trying to figure out what it means. But every one has one thought, if only they could find the most important questions.
Pardon the rhetoric but this year has been exceptional for everyone. And we all have very bleak stories to share, we have been affected like never before but if you look at it did we not become a little better than before? We have learnt to hope the way we never did, learning to accept, adopt and be adept at whatever has come our way. And that brings me to the most important questions that I feel we should ask ourselves for a slightly better version of ourselves as we get set to venture into the new year.
The very first question that I would want one to ask is if we have loved ourselves enough? Now, what sort of a question is this? Honestly, a very valid one. We act responsible and prioritize everything and everyone but us. We dress well, groom ourselves, behave as expected but do we love ourselves enough to break away from any of the labels that define us and just be our own unique selves? Eat healthy because you enjoy it, exercise because it makes you feel good, sleep because you want to, love yourself enough to not be bothered by what the others think. Why be apologetic and explain your actions? Those who love will understand and those who don’t; well do they matter? Remember what the Buddha said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
“Have I tried enough?” is my second most important question. Every time I am close to giving up I ask myself if I had tried enough and strike one more time in the hope that may be this would be the last. The last two years have been turbulent and Shubham and I have been at war many times and every time either of us thought of giving up, I pushed us some more. I would rather succumb than surrender because I am a hopeless optimist and deeply believe in John Greenleaf Whittier poem ‘Don’t Quit’, “……it may be near when it seems afar.” And honestly don’t we get a little more closer to our goal every time we take one more step instead of giving up!
And finally, “What is my Ikigai?” Your reason to get up and go on in this world. We all have at least one reason that keeps us going. A promise to someone or your own self, a dream that does not let you sleep, a responsibility, a hope, the faith, a conviction anything that will make you to go on with the mundane, the boring, the tough; all for the greater glory.
The new year is just a few days away, get up and get going. Live your life don’t just breathe because inhale, exhale, inhale again is Yoga…. which may be important in life but is not life for sure!

8 Comments Add yours

  1. “The very first question that I would want one to ask is if we have loved ourselves enough?”

    So much of our lives comes down to this very core question … for if we can’t love ourselves, it’s hard to love others.

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    1. A. Shruti says:

      True. It is important else we cannot accept others as they are and hence cannot love totally.


  2. Jess says:

    Great questions for reflecting. Thanks for sharing.

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  3. Kathleen Neagle Sokolowski says:

    I really resonated with the last question- what is it that gives me reason to get up and keep going? Powerful question.

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    1. A. Shruti says:

      Thank you! Glad you liked it.


  4. Amanda Potts says:

    Three great questions as we end the year. I plan to take time to consider each of them, but at this moment I appreciate how simply asking yourself if you have tried enough often leads to trying one more time. This, I think, is well worth remembering. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. A. Shruti says:

      Thank you! Glad you liked it


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